An acronym for F.E.A.R is false evidence appearing real. It is said that one of the most fearful things to do is give a public speech. People would rather get into a car accident than speak in front of an audience. I have given several speeches before. I can personally tell you that it wasn’t a comfortable feeling. I was very nervous. I thought about not showing up. Fortunately, I did what I had to do and felt good about it. Another thing that causes people to fear is making videos. People are self conscious about how they will look and sound especially to other people. Making videos are not easy for the beginner unless you have some previous experience in public communications. My first videos were not that good but that’s okay. Is creating videos for everyone? Probably not, but they will certainly help you overcome fear one step at a time.
The thing about fear is that we all have them, no matter who you are. It’s how we respond to them that makes the difference. It’s normal to have a little fear especially when you start something new. Just know that fear is the thief of your dreams. Ask any successful person regarding this subject and they will tell you that if your goal is important enough, you must feel the fear and do it anyway. That should be a little comforting to you.
Success is an inside job. It begins outside of your comfort zone. I’ve learned two exercises that can help you overcome fear if you allow them. These techniques will help you use fear as a weapon and eliminate it. The first one involves breathing. Close your eyes, relax your mind. Inhale-exhale five times or more. Do this consistently to develop the habit of releasing the thing that you’re fearing. Secondly, start using the power of affirmations. Affirmations are statements that you repeat to yourself aloud. The purpose is to develop your mind to proceed towards an expected goal. An affirmation I like is, “I AM A LEADER. I SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE”. Try this five times on a regular basis. When you do this, your mindset will begin to change. Note this is not an overnight process. It takes time and effort.
In conclusion, these two things will assist you to use fear as a weapon to succeed in business and in life. In a sense, it’s reverse psychology. The weapons of choice are breathing and affirmations. Many people want the payoff without the process. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work like that. Get comfortable with the process in the beginning and reap the rewards in the end.
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Calvin Moss is a writer/blogger and home business entrepreneur. He lives in New York City with his wife and daughter. Any inquiries can be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org.